We all want what we can’t have.
It’s just a fact of life.
Tall girls want to be short, brunettes want to be blonde, curly-haired girls want straight hair. That has been me for most of my life. I
have always received compliments for having ‘pretty’ or ‘cool’ hair as I have grown up with curls – but to me, they’re just inconvenient and a frizzy mess.
Every time I went out, whether that be to events, parties or even just town, I would always straighten my hair, because to me it just looked better.
I didn’t want the constant battle of having to position my hair just right, and hope that it would look fine but always end up putting it up because it was too frizzy or I just didn’t like the way it looked.
I even went through a bit of a crisis and dyed part of my hair blonde, which honestly just worsened the situation.
The more I straightened my hair, the worse it looked when it was natural because I had of course straightened it so much that my hair was quite burned, frazzled and even beginning to split. This, along with me not receiving enough nutrients due to me being vegetarian, began to lead to some issues that didn’t just involve the frizz levels.
Right now I am quite sad that so much damage was done to my hair, because I had to end up cutting it to a length above my shoulders, causing me to say goodbye to the locks which I can now see were beautiful all along, and I was extremely lucky to have them.
I stopped straightening my hair for a while, and even now, about 7 months later, I try to stay away from the straighteners as I am trying to grow my hair back to the healthy state it was once in. I did a lot of research into properly caring for my hair so found some hair tablets, conditioner and cream which I use to maintain its health so I don’t end up having to go through this process all over again.
Although having short hair was fun for a while, I really want to grow my hair back again, so am currently in the process of that, limiting the use of heat products and trying to take care of it properly.
I guess my main message for this post is to embrace you. We are all made unique and beautiful just the way we are, so we shouldn’t feel like we need to change that because of wanting what someone else has. I have spent a long time learning to love my curls, but looking back now I realise that I should have loved them along – but I guess as the saying goes, you don’t truly appreciate something until it’s gone…
This is the current state of my hair – and I’m quite proud of how far it has come. As you can hopefully tell, it’s grown a fair few inches, so hopefully by the summer it will be long and luscious again!
I hope you took away a positive message from this and realise that you should love yourself for who you are. We all struggle with insecurities about ourselves, and the features which we are born with can sometimes be difficult to accept – but they are the things that make us different from the next person.
If you do feel very self conscious about something, or have had a similar experience to me, please let me know in the comments as maybe toy can help someone else who is also going through that.
I hope all of you lovely people have an incredible week – and this week I do want to challenge you to actively try and love that feature that isn’t easy got you to love.
Until next time